So, do you think a hangover feels bad? You know what feels even worse... the word when it's spoken. How does one come back from a spoken word? Do we realise the intent of our word and how it can hurt another? Do we realise certain things are best left unsaid?
Human beings have the immense ability to think, recognise, understand, feel and see, yet we can be the cruelest species on earth. We vent anger, judgement and heartache on aspects regarding others, based solely on what we assume. What makes you right and what makes others wrong? Do you think your world is so perfect that it gives you the right to belittle others and pass judgement because they simply cannot do what you can right now or think like you do? Talking to a very wise man one day, he told me a story about how he heard another older man scold a younger man. I asked him, how did it make him feel and his answer opened my eyes. He said, I calmly went over to the older man, put my hands on his shoulders and told him, do not scold him, rather teach him.
So, as you can see, if we are as good as we think, what a beautiful world this would be if we can just take those few minutes out to firstly rationalise our minds, think about the repercussions and then if needs to be, understand and think about whether the potential spoken word is worth it, worth the energy, worth a fight, worth the break up of a relationship and most importantly, is it worth the next person's suffering.
How often have we taken the time out to realize the impact and repercussions of our words. A word no matter how sweet, will always have an intent. Human beings are going through daily battles, but we are sometimes too selfish to realize that or even take it into consideration before we say something that could hurt them or even throw them back into a space from which they've tried so hard to come through. Placing ourselves in the next person's shoes, is what makes us better human beings, showing compassion, love and understanding is what puts us above the rest, and not what we have.
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."
― quoted by Viktor E. Frankl
Article written by Sohanna Singh.